THE MORE SECURE AND CONFIDENT YOU ARE,
THE MORE LIKELY YOU ARE HAPPIER WITH YOURSELF AND
THE MORE YOU CAN CONNECT WITH OTHERS
We know that love is, in actuality, the pinnacle of evolution, the most compelling survival mechanism of the human species. Love drives us to bond emotionally with a precious few others who offer us safe haven from the storms of life. (Dr. Sue Johnson)
In spite of loving each other, many couples for whatever reasons, are caught in unhealthy communication behaviour patterns. You may feel stuck with the same old arguments. Or perhaps you avoid certain difficult topics because you are afraid of starting a fight.
These unhealthy patterns make you feel distant, disconnected, even being shut out, misunderstood, unwanted, unloved, unappreciated, unaccepted and dissatisfied in your marriage and couple relationship.
A healthy relationship should allow
the expression of differences and needs. It is like a dance. Only when the floor and footings are secure, that you are carefree to connect and dance through the highs and lows of life, through a lifetime.
Infidelity counselling
Recovery & Healing from Infidelity/ extramarital affair
When you discover that you are not “the only one” to your partner, you may experience your world collapsing. Although the common characteristics are high distress with strong emotional feelings such as anger, rage, hurt, sadness, helplessness etc but not everyone responds the same way. Deep inside, you may feel betrayed, abandoned and that a breach of trust has occurred in the relationship. You may also have real doubts about your partner and may ask questions like: “How can I ever trust you again?", "Can I ever count on you in the future?", "Do I still matter to you?”.
An Attachment Injury is defined as a violation of trust resulting from a betrayal or from abandonment at a moment of intense need or vulnerability. It is a wound that violates the basic assumption of attachment relationships. Infidelity Counselling provides healing to the attachment injuries.
If you were the offending partner, it doesn’t mean you are having a good time when you see the pain of your spouse. It hurts you as well. While dealing with your own guilt and shame, you may feel helpless.
Infidelity certainly crushes marriages and relationships. Yet it is not a death sentence. I have counselled many couples who have recovered, been healed, and now have a better relationship than before with the same partner.
Of course, the process of recovery is never easy. After the trust has been broken, the recovery you need is more than just determination, willingness, commitment, and patience. But more importantly, you need a professional couple therapist who is trained and experienced in providing Infidelity counselling and is able to provide you with the safety, support, neutrality and someone who is non-judgemental.
Outcomes: Forgiveness, Reconciliation & Reconnection
About US
Winny Lu Aldridge, Couple/Family Therapist
Winny has been practicing counselling since 2007. She has worked extensively with distressed couples and families, especially in the area of infidelity/extramarital affair and highly conflicted couple relationships as well as parenting/family relationship problems.
Her main therapeutic approach is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an evidence-based approach with the attachment-based theory that helps couples to create a positive shift in partners' interactional positions and patterns as well as a safe and secure bond.
Winny is a Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist with the International Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT). She is also teaching couple counselling module at a local university.
She adopts a therapeutic stance that emphasizes acceptance, empathy, genuineness, respect, and non-judgemental.
Over the years, Winny has received numerous positive feedbacks, especially for the effectiveness of her therapy services and heard success stories from her clients. She has helped many clients find hope, reconnection, and reconciliation. Meanwhile, She has always found great fulfilment in journeying with individuals, couples, and families.
“The greatest disease in the West today is not TB or leprosy; it is being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for. We can cure physical diseases with medicine, but the only cure for loneliness, despair, and hopelessness is LOVE.”
MOTHER TERESA
Professional Qualification
- Master of Education (Guidance & Counselling)
- Graduate Diploma in Solution-Focused Brief Therapy
- Post-Grad Certificate in Family Systemic Approach
- Post-Grad Diploma working with Couples & Families: A Systemic Approach
- An accredited PREPARE/ENRICH Facilitator
- An accredited Triple P (Positive Parenting Programme) Facilitator
- Gottman Method Couple Therapy
- Torn-Asunder Recovery from Extra Marital Affair Certified Facilitator
- WSQ Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment (ACTA)
- Certified EFT (Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy) Therapist & Supervisor
Professional Memberships
- Master Clinical Member with Singapore Association for Counselling (MMSAC)
- Registered Counsellor with Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC)
- Registered Clinical Supervisor with Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC)
- Member of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
- Co-Founder and Full Member of The Singapore Community for EFT (SGEFT)
Clinical Services
Individuals
Individuals
Individuals
- Stuck in relationship problems
- Depression and Anxiety
- Healing After a Break-up
- Insecurities due to childhood and negative past experience
Couples
Individuals
Individuals
- Conflict and Differences
- Breakdown in Communication
- Lack of Emotional Connection
- Sexual Addiction
- Infidelity and Extramarital Affair
Families
Individuals
Families
- Family Relationship issues
- Adjustment after life changes (divorce, relocation, grief & loss)
- Parent-child tension include relationship with adult-children
