COUPLE/ Marriage Counselling Singapore Infidelity counselling
Specializing in Relationship Challenges
By a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Supervisor & Therapist
Infidelity counselling
Recovery & Healing from Infidelity/ extramarital affair
When you discover that you are not “the only one” to your partner, you may experience your world collapsing. The person you love the most hurts you the worst. The reactions can include intense distress, marked by feelings of anger, hurt, sadness, and helplessness. However, these responses vary from person to person. At the core, you might sense betrayal and abandonment, feeling that trust has been broken in the relationship. Questions may arise such as, "Can I trust you again?", "Can I ever count on you in the future?", "Do I still matter to you?"
If you were the offending partner, seeing your spouse's pain due to your infidelity doesn't bring you any sense of joy but causes hurt to you as well. Being confronted about an affair can be exceptionally challenging to overcome. For some offending partners, the idea of enduring punishment similar to that of a criminal might feel more manageable than bearing the heavy label of a "cheater." In the aftermath of infidelity, all the positive contributions and underlying relationship problems may seem insignificant. The situation is fraught with complex emotions, making it a difficult journey for anyone involved.
An Attachment Injury is defined as a violation of trust resulting from a betrayal, which is often related to an affair or from abandonment at a moment of intense need or vulnerability. It is a wound that breaches the fundamental assumptions of attachment relationships. Infidelity Counselling plays a crucial role in addressing and healing these attachment injuries caused by affairs.
Infidelity certainly crushes marriages and relationships. Yet it is not a death sentence. I've had the privilege of providing guidance and support through infidelity counseling to numerous couples who managed to recover, heal, and even forge stronger relationships than before with the same partner.
Of course, the process of recovery is far from easy. After the trust has been broken, the recovery you need is more than just determination, willingness, commitment, and patience. However, what truly matters is the help of a skilled and experienced professional couple therapist trained in providing Infidelity Counselling. Such a therapist can offer you not only a safe space, unwavering support, and impartiality, but also the expertise to guide you step by step through the journey of affair recovery. Do you have the Right Spouse but the Wrong Therapist? If you're encountering issues such as a lack of direction, judgmental attitudes, minimization of the injured partner's distress, an unwillingness to focus on the affair, more blame than understanding, and impatience with the recovery process from an affair, it might be time to reconsider your therapeutic support.
Don't lose hope! Give your marriage the chance to address the wounds caused by the affair. Embrace this moment as an opportunity to not only overcome the crisis but also to flourish within your relationship and for personal growth as an individual!
Outcomes: Forgiveness, Reconciliation & Reconnection
About US
Winny Lu Aldridge, Couple/FamilyTherapist, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Certified Supervisor and Therapist
Winny has been practicing counselling since 2007. Her experience spans a wide range, with a strong focus on assisting distressed couples. She specializes in addressing issues such as infidelity, extramarital affairs, childhood trauma, communication, highly conflicted couple relationships, and challenges within parenting and family relationships.
Winny's primary therapeutic approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT), an evidence-based approach based on attachment theory. It fosters positive shifts in partners' interaction patterns while cultivating a safe and secure emotional bond. Additionally, Winny applies Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) to support individuals dealing with anxiety, childhood trauma, and anger issues.
As a Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist affiliated with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), Winny possesses extensive expertise in her field. Additionally, she contributes to the field by teaching a couple counseling module at a local university and managing The Singapore Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (SGEFT) that provides support and supervision to therapists and other mental health professionals learning EFT.
She adopts a therapeutic stance emphasizing acceptance, empathy, genuineness, respect, and non-judgment.
Over the years, Winny has received numerous positive feedback, particularly for the effectiveness of her therapeutic alliance and highlighting success stories from her clients. Her dedication has helped many individuals and couples rediscover hope, reconnect, and achieve reconciliation. Meanwhile, She has always found great fulfillment in journeying with her clients.
Language Proficiency: English and Mandarin
Clinical Services
Individuals
Individuals
Individuals
- Stuck in relationship problems
- Depression and Anxiety
- Healing After a Break-up
- Insecurities due to childhood and negative past experience
Couples
Individuals
Individuals
- Conflict and Differences
- Breakdown in Communication
- Lack of Emotional Connection
- Sexual Addiction
- Infidelity and Extramarital Affair
Families
Individuals
Families
- Family Relationship issues
- Adjustment after life changes (divorce, relocation, grief & loss)
- Parent-child tension include relationship with adult-children
