About us

Winny Lu Aldridge, Certified EFCT, EFIT, and EFFT (Emotionally Focused Couple, Individual, and Family Therapy) Trainer-in-Training, Supervisor and Therapist

Winny has been practicing counselling since 2007, with extensive experience in a wide range of issues, particularly in supporting distressed couples and individuals facing relationship challenges. Her specialization includes managing high conflict, communication problems, infidelity, betrayal trauma, ambivalence in relationships, childhood trauma, and family dynamics.

Her primary therapeutic approach is grounded in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), an evidence-based approach based on attachment theory. She works with couples, individuals, and families to address various issues and enhance emotional connections.

As a Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist affiliated with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), Winny possesses extensive expertise in her field. Additionally, she contributes to the field by teaching a Couple Counseling Module at a local university and managing The Singapore Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (SGEFT) which provides supervision and training to therapists and other mental health professionals learning EFT.

She adopts a therapeutic approach that emphasizes acceptance, empathy, genuineness, respect, and a non-judgmental attitude.

Over the years, Winny has received numerous positive feedbacks, particularly for the effectiveness of her therapeutic alliance and highlighting success stories from her clients. Her dedication has helped many individuals and couples rediscover hope, reconnect, and achieve reconciliation. Meanwhile, She has always found great fulfillment in journeying with her clients.

Language Proficiency: English and Mandarin

Available Days and Hours:

Tuesday: 12:00 PM - 9:00 PM

Thursday: 4:00 PM - 9:00 PM

Friday: 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM

Saturday: 10:00 AM - 4:00 PM

Fees and Registration

Professional Qualification

Master of Education (Guidance & Counselling)
Graduate Diploma in Solution-Focused Brief Therapy
Post-Grad Certificate in Family Systemic Approach
Post-Grad Diploma working with Couples & Families: A Systemic Approach
ICEEFT Certified EFT (Emotionally Focused Couple, Individual and Family Therapy) Trainer Candidate, Supervisor & Therapist
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Master of Education (Guidance & Counselling)
Graduate Diploma in Solution-Focused Brief Therapy
Post-Grad Certificate in Family Systemic Approach
Post-Grad Diploma working with Couples & Families: A Systemic Approach
ICEEFT Certified EFT (Emotionally Focused Couple, Individual and Family Therapy) Trainer Candidate, Supervisor & Therapist
Torn-Asunder Recovery from Extra Marital Affair Certified Facilitator
WSQ Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment (ACTA)

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Professional Memberships

Professional Qualification

Master Clinical Member with Singapore Association for Counselling (MMSAC)
Registered Counsellor with Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC)
Registered Clinical Supervisor with Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC)
Member of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
Founder and Community Leader of The Singapore Community for EFT (SGEFT)

Carrie Chan, Certified EFCT (Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy) Therapist

Carrie has extensive counselling experience working with individuals and families. She is committed to helping couples learn how to navigate healthy relationships, couples preparing for marriage, couples in marital crisis (such as incompatibility, difficult transitions, extra-marital recovery, separation or co-parenting) she also sees families in conflict (such as parents with young adults).

Her primary therapeutic approach in Emotionally Focused Therapy is grounded in Attachment Theory. She is also able to include faith based connections and multicultural applications where necessary. She is trained to work with clients with mental health conditions such as anxiety and depression.

She believes that every human being is made for relationships and we all need relationships to thrive in life. The ability to foster healthy relationships is a gift that each person can cultivate and offer to others. Hence, her work focuses on human dynamics including our internal working model that shapes one’s thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

Language proficiency: English

Available Days and Hours:

Monday: 9:00 AM – 9:00 PM
Wednesday: 9:00 AM - 1 PM
Saturday: 4:00 PM - 7 PM

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Are Couple Counselling and Marriage Counselling the same?

Couple counseling and marriage counseling share the common goal of helping partners improve their relationship, but they differ in scope and application. Couple counseling is broader, designed for any couple, regardless of their legal marital status, and focuses on resolving current conflicts, improving communication, and strengthening the relationship. Marriage counseling, on the other hand, specifically targets legally married couples and often addresses issues with a long-term perspective, including familial dynamics, financial planning, and intimacy.

2. How many sessions are typically needed for Couple Counselling in Singapore?

The number of sessions can vary depending on the couple’s specific concerns, goals, and level of engagement. On average, couples attend between 6 to 20 sessions. Some may experience meaningful progress within a few sessions, while others may benefit from longer-term support to work through deeper patterns or rebuild trust.

3. What are the top three proven modalities or approaches in Couple/Marriage and Infidelity counselling?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): Focuses on building secure emotional bonds through understanding and transforming emotional responses.
Gottman Method: Based on extensive research, it emphasizes improving communication, increasing intimacy, and resolving conflict.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for Couples: Helps couples change negative thought patterns and behaviors, improving their relationship dynamics.

4. What is the success rate of Couple/ Marriage counselling using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?

EFT is widely recognized and empirically supported approach to couple therapy. It focuses on helping couples identify and change negative patterns of interaction while enhancing emotional connection and attachment. EFT has demonstrated long-term effectiveness in improving relationship satisfaction and stability.

According to a meta-analysis conducted on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), 90% of couples who underwent EFT significantly improved their relationship, and 70-75% of couples no longer fit the criteria for relationship distress following treatment. This success rate is higher than any other couple intervention at the time.

More information about the summary of EFT research: EFT Research – ICEEFT

5. Can Couple Counselling fix a relationship?

Couple Counselling can indeed contribute to improving relationships, but the outcomes are influenced by various factors, including the specific situation of each relationship, the commitment of the individuals involved, the therapist’s skills and experience, and the therapeutic relationship between the clients and the therapist.

6. Is Couple Counselling or Marriage Counselling worth it after infidelity?

Yes, if both partners are willing to engage in the process of rebuilding trust through open, honest and sincere communication, addressing underlying issues, support their partner in dealing with any post-traumatic stress, and working towards healing. Nevertheless, it’s important to recognize that couple or marriage counselling doesn’t provide instant solution. The process can be emotionally challenging and both partners should be mentally prepared in the process.

7. What should I do if my partner is reluctant to participate in Couple Counselling or Marriage Counseling with me?

You might start with individual counselling for yourself. This can help you understand yourself and needs better, and you can learn strategies to manage your relationship dynamics more effectively. As your spouse observes the positive changes in your behavior and interactions, they may become inspired by this new approach. This could potentially encourage him/her to participate in couple/marriage counseling with you.

8. What is the typical structure of sessions in couple or marriage counselling Singapore? Should I begin with Individual or Couple Session?

Our practice involves a combination of couple sessions and individual session/s with each partner.

1st Session – Couple Session
Individual Session/s with each partner
Followed by Couple Sessions

The choice between starting with individual or couple session depends largely on your specific circumstances and objectives. If both you and your partner have clear, shared goals you wish to achieve from therapy, beginning with couple session is recommended. On the other hand, if you find yourself feeling confused or facing challenges in your relationship or marriage to the point where communication with your partner is difficult, beginning with individual sessions might be beneficial.

9. What are the purposes of therapists conducting individual sessions with each partner?

Assessment of each partner's perspective, concerns, and personal history. This help the therapist gain a more comprehensive understanding of the individuals before addressing the dynamics within the relationship.
Building rapport and trust with each partner.
Identifying underlying personal issues, traumas, or past experiences that may be affecting their contributions to the relationship.
Addressing unmet emotional needs and explore ways to address them in joint sessions.
Empowering individuals to take ownership of their personal growth and development, which can contribute to a more balanced and healthy relationship.
Based on the information gathered during individual sessions, the therapist can tailor interventions to the specific needs and challenges of each partner.

10. How often do we attend the Marriage Counselling in Singapore?

Attending Couple Therapy or Marriage Counseling in Singapore is generally recommended every week. A two-week gap between sessions is acceptable under certain circumstances, but it's important to avoid extending the gap beyond two weeks as it can impact the progress of the counseling. Commitment to the process is crucial for the success of marriage counselling.